There’s something that’s been on my mind more than usual as of late: the word “no”. For such a small word, it packs quite a punch when uttered in conversation. NO, you can’t do that. NO, you’re wrong. NO, I won’t help you. God created the word “no” for a specific purpose: to protect and to teach. Unfortunately, as with everything else originally designed for good, Satan took that word and twisted it into something that can be used to hurt, belittle, and and show carelessness. What was meant for good is now often attributed with bad and sad instances fueled by anger or misunderstanding. And so here we are in the year 2018, where everyone is so fearful to utter the word “no” and offend anyone that our society has been turned upside down. Don’t tell a little boy he’s a boy because you might hurt his feelings (let’s not even look at the studies showing how doing this can have serious long-term psychological repercussions, but anyway…). Don’t stay in when that guy you like is at a party. Don’t you deserve a good time? Don’t correct your children for doing wrong… Lighten up! They’re just being kids! Don’t you want to be their friend?

In a word, NO.

It’s not OK to do something simply because most people are doing the same thing. It’s not OK to allow your kids to disrespect authority and act out of lawlessness. And it is so not OK to teach children that biology is irrelevant and they can be their own God. No. I’m sorry if think it’s right, but no.

Sometimes saying no would in actuality spare people much heartache.

We even play the yes game with a holy God.

If He loves me, He won’t let me suffer.

Right. Let’s not even look at how most of the original disciples of Christ suffered cruel deaths (did anyone actually find Paul’s head once he was decapitated? That would certainly make for an interesting Resurrection story!), but anyway…

You don’t understand. Jesus said in John 14:14, “If ye shall ask any thing in my name, I will do it.” So God can’t say no!

This isn’t Aladdin, and God is not a genie.

God is good and just and sometimes has a better plan than we do.

God can, and does, use the word no, but never without cause. And never does it not cause Him pain to do so.

Last night my stomach started hurting terribly bad, again. Today it began bleeding, again. I don’t understand why this viscous cycle is still ongoing. If I’m being completely transparent, there are still days I feel I don’t deserve to carry the constant weight that is Spinal Muscular Atrophy. But I believe in God’s plan. In John 9, Christ and His disciples came upon a blind man. Scripture goes on to say, “And his disciples asked him, saying, Master, who did sin, this man, or his parents, that he was born blind? Jesus answered, Neither hath this man sinned, nor his parents: but that the works of God should be made manifest in him.”

Do you understand?

On this roller-coaster ride of life, there are ups and downs, smiles and tears, joy and pain; all for His glory.

I might, some day, get some cure for SMA. I might not. Even so, God is still my everything. My four-year-old niece went swimming with her sister and “Abbi” (grandma) yesterday. I said in passing that I wished I could go with them. Haven so matter-of-factually spoke up and said “oh, Sissy, don’t worry! You’re going to walk one of these days! I even drew a picture of you walking! Wanna see? We’re going to swim in Heaven and it will be SO FUN!!!” Out of the mouths of babes…

Even when God says no, He is still on His throne. Trust Him.


One of my personal favorites… Enjoy…

4 thoughts on “No

  1. We all feel that we know better than God at times. We know we really don’t but we don’t like NO. No one knows better than you that we have to wait on God. I love you my lovely lady more than you could ever know.


  2. Amber- as always well said! I am so sorry you are suffering, but I am so proud of you for continuing to trust God in everything. And yes!!! my sweet friend someday you will walk!!!!, maybe here, or maybe not till you get to heaven but it’s gonna happen. Love you ❤️


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